Allan Herem, LMFT

Allan Herem is a California-based licensed marriage and family therapist with 23 years of clinical experience supporting adults through stress, anxiety, depression, and relationship struggles. He helps people who are juggling parenting, feelings of low self-esteem, or the weight of caregiving responsibilities. Allan also addresses issues like attachment, abandonment, commitment fears, and the emotional fallout from infidelity or separation.

He keeps sessions straightforward and focused on practical change. Conversations often center on understanding patterns from family of origin, improving communication, and managing impulsive or control-oriented behaviors. Clients work on clearer boundaries, repairing trust, and reducing shame or guilt through steady, respectful dialogue.

Allan draws on evidence-based therapeutic techniques to guide the process. He aims to help clients identify unhelpful habits, try new ways of relating, and build skills that make everyday life easier. Progress is framed around specific goals the client and therapist set together.

Over two decades in practice have given him experience with many interpersonal and emotional problems, including fatherhood concerns and caregiver stress. He explains options plainly and tailors the work to each person’s needs and values.

Sessions are conducted in English. Prospective clients should confirm current session formats before booking and follow the site’s Start Therapy steps to begin the matching and scheduling process.

How evidence-based techniques fit into online therapy

Allan uses evidence-based therapeutic techniques that focus on changing unhelpful patterns and improving relationships. One common approach helps people identify repeated interaction patterns that cause pain and then practice new ways of communicating and setting boundaries. This method is useful for concerns like communication problems, commitment fears, and caregiver stress.

Another frequently used approach centers on understanding attachment and family of origin influences. It helps people see how past relationships shape current feelings and reactions, which can reduce guilt, shame, and feelings of emptiness when addressed directly in sessions.

Finding the right approach is part of the work itself. Allan collaborates with each person to pick techniques that match their goals, needs, and comfort level. He adjusts the plan over time based on what helps most and what feels manageable.

If you are considering online therapy, confirm the available session options before booking since the biography does not list formats. Many people find remote work helpful because it can fit into busy schedules, allow shorter check-ins when needed, or avoid travel time. Talk with the therapist during the matching step to choose an approach and setup that fits daily life and therapeutic goals.